How to Feel Good Any day

I don’t remember when exactly I got into a mood, but I think it was between 7:30am and 8:30am. You’re probably wondering why the time is important. Well, for the life of me, I could not think of what caused the mood swing. I woke up to a beautiful bright day, I would have wanted to sleep a little bit more but that’s not new, it’s the story of my mornings. I did my devotion and the experience was quite exciting, so I was looking forward to a very upbeat day.

 I decided to quickly tidy the house which looked like a demon ran through it. Remember fight the clutter.  It was in-between tidying the house and getting dressed for work that I looked at my bookshelf and noticed a pile of junk on the floor next to it. I took a step back and got a good look of my apartment; it made me sick. The curtains needed changing, the walls needed painting, I needed to get rid of some crap lying around and I seemed to lack a lot of stuff. If I was in a bad mood before that, the mood took a nose dive into deep waters. My arms got very heavy and I just wanted to crawl into bed and cover my head with the blanket.

Just before I hit rock bottom, a voice in my mind engaged me in a discussion, it asked me a pertinent question,

“Why is the house suddenly so repulsive? Was it disgusting yesterday or when you woke up this morning?”

“No” I answered, wondering why I was entertaining a conversation with the voice.  It was bad enough the morning I was having; did I want to add ‘appearing lunatic’ to it?

“So why do you think it got so vile in a matter of minutes?” the voice continued, ignoring my insulting contrasting thoughts. “Do you think it’s because the room changed or because the way you saw it changed?”

Bingo! A light bulb turned on in my head. It sounded intelligent, but it made no sense.

“What do you mean?” I asked with a deep frown.

“Your mood/emotion determines what you see and how you see them”, the obviously intelligent voice continued “If you’re in a good mood, you see good stuff all around you and you draw happy inferences from them. Likewise, if you’re sad or downcast, you see only the dark and dank side of life and draw depressing inferences from them”

“Ok, I’m in a bad mood, so I guess everything has to be repugnant till further notice” I growled.

“Not necessarily” the teacher in my mind replied, “If when we’re unhappy and we see only the dark side of things, then it’s possible that if we decide to see the good and positive side of things, even though we are unhappy, we may short-circuit ourselves into a good mood”  

“How can you do that?” hope creeped into my voice

“Look at your pile of crap and tell me what you see” the voice sounded like my professor back in philosophy class

“Crap” I promptly replied.

“Look at them one by one and tell me what you see” it persisted.

“Ok, I see a bunch of VCD’s; my collection from school days”, I remembered collecting those CDs; they were my pride and joy at the time. I thought briefly of my school days, the challenges those CD’s saw me through and the sensational fun times I had with them.

I continued, “I see my cousin’s old computer things”, my cousin was always collecting scraps, he was a pain in the unmentionable place, but I love him and miss him.

I moved on, “I see my old notes for some of my public speaking engagements”, I relived the exhilarating experience of being privileged to stand before a group of people to speak. “I see…

“Look at the house”, the voice cut me off, “tell me what you see”

“I see” my voice picked up now, I was excited by the fun I was having “the blend of colours between my curtain and my wall, its genius” I remembered choosing those colours at the furniture shop. I had so many options it had felt like being asked to eat only one meal from a buffet.

“I see the chairs, they are not bad”, I remembered when they were completely shredded “ouch” I chuckled, I had bought them with fake leather, and in a month all the coverings were in shreds. I had to re-case all of them. By now I was laughing at my stupidity.

“How do you feel now?” the all wise voice asked me.

“Ready to face my day” I replied with a smile.

It was after 9am, I was late like hell, but I was feeling much better.

Our emotions tell us not only what to feel about everything, but how to see them. We interpret our world based on how we feel. If we can consciously choose to only see the good in our reality, whether it’s a place, people, or situation, we will successfully maintain an upbeat personality through the day.   

Kanayo Aniegboka

Kani is a Nigerian born and based minister, public speaker, entrepreneur and life coach. His keen and unique perspective to life issues makes him a refreshing voice to listen to. He currently serves as the Executive Coordinator of House on the Rock - Word House and sits on the board of a number of companies.

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