Life Attitude - Best way to live

It’s the middle of the year, and its tradition at this time for most of us to go into a frenzy which we interpret as mid-year valuation. We analogically present the year-in-view as a competitive sport that is divided into rounds or halves. The good thing about this sentiment is that it releases in us a bout of new energy that cranks up our steadily slowing system.  The bad thing about it is that it puts us in a reactive panic, because we feel the year is 50% gone ( which for most of us feels more like 80%) and we are not as far gone into the plans we made at the beginning of the year as we would have wished to be. Therefore you have everyone trying to motivate us to make better use of the second half of year. Motivators are screaming “get out there and give it 101%, preachers are hooping “the end would be better than the beginning “and we all are scampering around like roaches that got the light turned on them.

The unfortunate thing with this mid-year crisis is that it puts most of us in the blues. It releases a shower of depression on us as we reflect over the many unaccomplished goals we confidently penned down at the beginning of the year that we would accomplish before the midyear.  The more vociferous we were about our goals, the more it stings when they are unaccomplished at this time. You had planned for a car and were sure it would be here by May but it’s July and you’re left with just the picture of the car you downloaded from google and now you’re hiding from everyone you bragged to about buying the car. You made your wedding list in January and by faith set the date at August 17th, it’s now July and he has walked out of the relationship and all you have now are knife stabbing questions.  Although it’s not everyone who has their goals unmet, it is mostly the unmet ones we get to remember when the mid-year blues hit us.

As I reflect on this mid-year, it strikes me that we have developed the wrong attitude to life because of our mournful reaction to escaped goals and unachieved plans. I realise that our basic reaction to life only helps to keep us in a vicious cycle that runs from New Year through mid-year and then climaxes at the end of the year. We are hype and motivated at the beginning of the year, we take a nose dive by midyear, we get motivated again, just to take another nose dive at year’s end, only to be motivated yet again for the next New Year and on and on. This is the vicious cycle we seem to live our lives in.

Now I think this malicious cycle can easily be broken simply by having the right attitude to life, and the best of them is ‘an attitude of gratitude’.  Life we are told is 10% what happens to us and 90% what happens in us. Therefore it is not necessarily your unattained goals that depress you, but how you feel about your unattained goals. Living our lives with an attitude of gratitude saves us from the pendulum of depression and motivation that we tend to go through all the time. It helps us focus on the things that are working in our lives, and to view the things that are not working through the eyes of appreciation.

“Just an observation:” says Steve Maraboli, “it is impossible to be both grateful and depressed. Those with a grateful mind-set tend to see the massage in the mess. And even though life may knock them down, the grateful find reason, if even small ones, to get up.”   I strongly take the position that gratitude should not be activity performed once a year at thanksgiving, or when some sensational thing happens to us. Miracles happen to us every day, right from when we open our eyes in the morning. If we learn to acknowledge all the good things that happen to us as we do the bad, we would figure out that it’s not been so bad after all.

Am I suggesting we should not appraise or reflect? Not at all, but the means by which we appraise our lives, and judge our efforts, is what determines how we perceive and create our realities.  In life, you see the glass as half empty or half full, regardless of how you see it, the quantity in the glass is the same, all that is affected is how you feel about it. Your life does not improve because you got depressed and panicked. It gets better because you plan and take active steps to improve your condition and it’s much better when you do it cheerful and grateful.   

To be continued…

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Kanayo Aniegboka

Kani is a Nigerian born and based minister, public speaker, entrepreneur and life coach. His keen and unique perspective to life issues makes him a refreshing voice to listen to. He currently serves as the Executive Coordinator of House on the Rock - Word House and sits on the board of a number of companies.

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