Dealing with Change

I’ve had a couple of changes occur in my life recently, and it feels like a crazy terrorist has taken hold of the steering wheel of my life and is trying to crash-land me. It takes a lot of faith, will and discipline and a creative imagination that employs friends like; 007, Avengers, X-men, Rambo and a bunch of other heavy hitters to wrestle the steering wheel out of the deadly terrorists’ hands.

Change usually creeps up on us when we least expect it and when it does, it has a way of causing other changes that affect every area of our lives. Just like a stubbed toe hurts you in the head, change affects more than the area of your life it occurs in. An example of a change in your life that can affect other areas is losing your job, it can cause you to become depressed and irritable, which would make you quarrel often with your fiancé and eventually cause her to break up with you.

Change is the only constant thing they say. Whether you are going through a life altering crisis, or are just bored out of your wits with inactivity, changes are occurring all around you. As long as the clock is ticking, whether you are observing it or not, changes are taking place. If for nothing else, you are getting older with every minute that passes and your biological organs and systems are getting older and depreciating from use, no matter how hard you try to hide the wrinkles, the change is occurring. Trying to avoid change is like running from your shadow.  

Most of the times, we feel helpless in the face of change. We feel life happens to us and we are helpless to control it. Truth be told, we are not in control of a lot of the changes that affect us; losing a loved one, getting older, experiencing  an earthquake, etc. but there are a lot others we are in control of, such as; getting married, moving house, going on a holiday, changing jobs, etc. There is also a third category of change; the ones we believe we are not in control of, but in truth, we are actually in control of them. They are; gaining weight, staying in an abusive job or relationship, and being ignorant.

The changes that hurt the most are the ones we believe we are not in control of but are actually in control of. We must find a way to manage, if not control, change in our lives.  That you have a pregnant wife and two little kids at home does not mean you must remain in the abusive job where your boss verbally and even physically abuses you. Start planning for a career change, put out your CV and knock on some doors, you may get something that even pays better.   The most effective advice I’ve heard so far when it has to do with change is the serenity prayer by Reinhold Niebuhr which say;

God grant me the serenity
To accept the things I cannot change;
Courage to change the things I can;
And wisdom to know the difference.    

Profound if you ask me! In addition, below are a couple of tips on how you can deal effectively with change, you must:  

·         Realise that you have more control of your life, much more than you believe:
·         Develop the mind-set that any change you cannot control is not required for your success.
·         Expect and prepare for change.
·         Realise you have what it takes to handle the change.

Change is what keeps life from getting stale.
Kanayo aniegboka

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Kanayo Aniegboka

Kani is a Nigerian born and based minister, public speaker, entrepreneur and life coach. His keen and unique perspective to life issues makes him a refreshing voice to listen to. He currently serves as the Executive Coordinator of House on the Rock - Word House and sits on the board of a number of companies.

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