My Life, My Responsibility - Real Life Fulfilment.


In the post My Life, My Responsibility! I buttressed the personal nature of responsibility; that each of us is solely responsible for our lives, and that there are no shared obligations when it comes to these responsibilities. The fallacies we imbibed while growing up, that discipline and corrections were evil, made us think that freedom was a liberation from consequences and that once liberated, we could do all we wanted and would not be held accountable (this was our joy as we flew the coop when we got accepted into the university). Some of us eventually got to learn the hard way that our actions whether supervised or unsupervised have consequences and that we are completely responsible for whatever the outcome is. We therefore concluded that My life, my responsibility and your life, your responsibility.


Responsibility is the price for freedom.
Elbert Hubbard

To take responsibility here means to hold yourself accountable for the progress or failure of your life, but beyond that there are four levels of responsibility you need to take for real life fulfilment. They are:

·         Responsibility for your life: as I clearly elucidated in My Life, My Responsibility! You are responsible for the outcome of your life, your happiness, money, progress… (For more, read My Life, My Responsibility!)

Accept responsibility for your life. Know that it is you who will get you where you want to go, no one else
Les Brown

·         Responsibility for your relationships: every relationship you are a part of entails actions to be carried out by the covenanting parties involved. These actions are symbiosis of contributions carried out by each member of the relationship for the good and the progress of the relationship. Regardless of the relationship; husband/wife, boyfriend/girlfriend, business partners, teacher/student, parent/child, landlord/tenants, siblings… there are unwritten or written expectations required by the participants from each other. For you to be a success, you must review the genuine expectations of your relationships and take responsibility to meet them. (Note of warning; please mind the word ‘genuine’). You must be ready to carry out the expectations of the relationship to be successful at it. So Girl! If you don’t want to cook, leave the man alone. Guy! If you don’t want to provide and take care of someone else, do not propose. Every relationship has requirements, be responsible and meet yours.

Until the great mass of people shall be filled with the sense of responsibility for each other’s welfare, social justice can never be attained.
Hellen Keller

·         Responsibility for your society: we are all part of a larger relationship called a society.   Every society has rules and regulations guiding both the interactions of people with one another within the society and interactions of people with other parts of the society. Your responsibility is to obey all the rules, regulations and laws guiding your society. Learn to take the protection of your society as your personal business; don’t pass on the job of paying attention to your society to others, because “it is not your thing”. Do your part; pay your bills, your taxes, obey traffic rules, clean your environment, don’t throw stuff on the road…. Don’t even stop there, make sure that everyone in your area of influence does the same.

Leadership is about taking responsibility, not making excuses
Mitt Rommey

·         Responsibility for mankind: Yep! You heard me right, mankind! Philanthropy is not an act reserved for the super-rich, the Bill Gates and Warren Buffets of this world. Philanthropy is a way of improving the material, social or spiritual welfare of someone who is less privileged than you. I consider it a means of giving back to mankind for all the many blessings you have that you didn't pay for; like air, health, peace, sunshine, and so on. Everyone cannot battle malaria in the world like Bill Gates foundation or fight HIV and cancer, but you can feed a homeless child, you can pay someone’s school fees, if you don’t have money you can volunteer for an NGO or an old people’s home. If you look closely, there are millions of opportunities around you that you can serve as a means of taking responsibility for mankind.  For more on this check out the post ‘Good Friday Thots’.

Life is a gift, and it offers us the privilege, opportunity and responsibility to give something back by becoming more.
Tony Robbins



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Kanayo Aniegboka

Kani is a Nigerian born and based minister, public speaker, entrepreneur and life coach. His keen and unique perspective to life issues makes him a refreshing voice to listen to. He currently serves as the Executive Coordinator of House on the Rock - Word House and sits on the board of a number of companies.

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