The Way Of Love - A Tribute to NELSON MANDELA

He showed the way of love

“No one is born hating another person because of the colour of his skin, or his background, or his religion. People must learn to hate, and if they can learn to hate, they can be taught to love, for love comes more naturally to the human heart than its opposite.”
-Nelson Mandela

As the world celebrates the life and legacy of the world’s most popular human being, Nelson Mandela, I am amazed at the amount of influence a single person can have on a generation. Although everyone may not know what he stood for; some pretty girl’s display message on BlackBerry Messenger read “RIP Nelson Mandela, another actor goes down”. I guess the fact that the actor Morgan Freeman who actually acted Nelson Mandela in the movie Invictus looks like him (or the bimbo believes everyone on TV is an actor) has something to do with it, but that was before I came across a world of people who put up Freeman’s picture on Twitter with a big RIP. All I can say is “Morgan, forgive them for they know not what they do”.

Anyway, I realised that what we celebrate in everyman is not what he looks like or how he walks or how he talks, it really does not matter the cologne he wears or the position he sleeps in, what we applaud or denigrate in any man is what he stands for, the ideal he perpetuates and the values he lives by. Nelson Mandela or Madiba to the South Africans, who owe him their freedom, stood for something that I think the New Testament writer, Paul, captured in his letter to the believers at Corinth around 53AD, when he wrote “… and yet I will show you the most excellent way.” He was referring to the way we do things in life, everything, whether work or play. There are ways by which things are done in every society; there is the right way, the wrong way, there is even our way; in Nigeria, we bow to greet our elders, some even prostrate, it’s our way. Nevertheless, Paul postulates that there is a most excellent way to live and act superior to any other way in human society. He says “If I had the gift of being able to speak in other languages without learning them, and could speak in every language there is in all of heaven and earth, but didn’t love others, I would only be making noise…” (This immediately tells me why all our politicians sound empty even when they talk and sweat for hours on end). For Paul, if it’s not done in love, throw it to the dogs.

Paul’s philosophy is simple, we are all driven by motives, all we do are motive or intension driven, every good morning has a motive behind it, every ‘I love you’ has a motive behind it, every service has a motive and every joke has one too. What really defines what we do is the ‘way’ it is done, it is the heart behind it, the driving factor. Every child corrected with a few strokes of the cane is being loved (yea yea, I can hear the whining’s), every criminal thrown in jail is an act of love. Likewise, it is not every help that is an act of love, not every smile is an act of love.

An act of love is any action taken to better the lot, place or position of the recipient, it is a predisposition to leave another better with every encounter they have with you. The way of love is a disposition to refrain from any action that is detrimental to another, and pursue with passion any deed, no matter how small or great, that will add favour to others.

We live in a predominantly selfish world, where every action no matter how noble and laudable is driven by a deep seated motive to gain personal gratification. One man spent twenty-seven years in incarceration for people he had no personal knowledge of; he stayed imprisoned while they walked free, just so they could enjoy better liberty than they presently did. Madiba did not make noise by Paul’s standard, he made impact. Today we celebrate the live and legacy of a man who lived by love when all around him was pure hate. Now a lot of contradictory tales are popping up here and there about him, but let us focus on what principles we can draw from his life, the values he projected and the standard his personality represented. Let us honour his memory by trying to see that someone in our area of influence lives better because of us, in any way we can, let us develop the lifestyle of love, let us teach ourselves daily by asking the question “what I’m doing now, is it being done in love?” We may not all free an entire nation and influence an entire generation, but we can free one person at a time, and influence a community or industry.

"I am not a saint, unless you think of a saint as a sinner who keeps on trying."
Nelson Mandela.

RIP Nelson Mandela - +Nelson Mandela Centre of Memory

Kanayo Aniegboka

Kani is a Nigerian born and based minister, public speaker, entrepreneur and life coach. His keen and unique perspective to life issues makes him a refreshing voice to listen to. He currently serves as the Executive Coordinator of House on the Rock - Word House and sits on the board of a number of companies.


  1. Creat in me a clean heart o Lord and renew the right spirit within me.

  2. Intresting and so so true. RIP mandiba!