Birthday Musing

It’s my birthday today (don't bother asking how old, I'm young enough). It’s been a pretty trying time in my life too. I had begun a 'rediscovering myself' journey a little while back (some say it’s just midlife crisis), I disagree. But whichever it is, it’s given me a lot of time to reflect and take a closer look at my life, with the aim of reprioritizing my goals, and reassessing my purpose.

I started struggling with the mundane nature of my life, as exciting as it appeared. You have to understand, I'm one of those guys who are purpose driven, who believe they've been put on earth by a higher intelligence for some definite assignment. You can argue the rationality, but in practice it gives me the push and confidence I need to aim high. Anyway, everything had started to drag and I began to wonder why. These are some of the answers I found out, and it may help you too

1. Purpose had become regiment: initially, I always asked the question "what am I here for, what difference am I here to make, at work, home or nation? Now I realized it has turned to "what do I need to do today to get by?"

2. Values had become rational: My values had always been based on
A. What is the right thing?
B. What is the right way?
C. When is the right time?     
More recently, I realized it had started becoming "what is most convenient?" (I shudder to think of it)

3. Goals had become cautious: My goals were always lofty and grand, plans of changing the world and nothing less. Now it’s cautious, putting every conceivable and inconceivable roadblock into consideration.

Life can be lived in two ways; open your wings like an eagle and let the winds carry you or like flap a lot like the chicken and go nowhere. I lost a dear friend and mentor recently, great guy, life of the party kinda guy. It’s a big loss, but that's what it is, a loss! I realize that there are more than one kinda losses; living losses, and dead losses!

We are not meant to Rest in Peace while alive, we're meant to cause enough ruckuses while alive, so that when we pass on, our era cannot deny we passed through. That's the greatest lesson my friend taught me even in death, so enough of lily-livered, one leg on the ground, chicken hearted whispering existence. We are meant to live bold and in your face, audacious and full of life.

If you realize like me that the dream has waned and the fire has become embers, or you are still toying with the match box wondering when you'll light the fire, NOW is the time honey! You don't pay to dream, no government taxes your fantasies, hopes and aspirations, so make them as big and bright as you can.

If you are not making enough noise (impact) in all your spheres of influence, then go back to the drawing board and reassess

a) The purpose you live for: make sure you can define what your life is about, make everything about it

 b) The values you live by: what do you stand for? List out qualities that would define you and come to terms with them and

c) The goals you live on: Set 'smart' goals for every area of your life, if you had abandoned goals, bring them back and dust them up, your daily life must be lived on goals.

The essence of my rambling is that no matter how interesting your life may seem, without frequent reassessments, it could slow down or roll to a stop. Therefore, join me today if you have been like me, and let’s crank up the engine again. It’s time to live life at full crush.

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Kanayo Aniegboka

Kani is a writer, entrepreneur, blogger, public speaker and an all-round knowledge junkie who likes to view life from different angles.


  1. Nice one KaaaaNnnniii

  2. Happy birthday PK!since I met u,u've made an Incredible Impact in my life!I loveu so Much,God bless u 4 all d differences u've made in my life and may he continue To use u 2 touch more lives!amazing write up!Try and Have fun 2day jare!!!! ONA

  3. I totally identify with you

  4. Hmmmmmmm. This Is huge! Great ppl indeed have values and principles they live by. I am glad you are a part of my life.

  5. Thank you everyone, you all made my day! And because I'm a man of my word I am going to send gifts to the winners. Anonymous 1, Ona and Ogochukwu please send an e-mail to reallifewithkani@gmail with your mobile numbers and Facebook names so that I'll be able to redeem the gifts. and since we would not want to leave Nnenna alone (with her awesome comment by the way), Nnenna please also send your number and Facebook name to the above Gmail address. These gifts are valid till midnight 15th of October, 2013. Thank you!

  6. Pls extend the gift to the first six persons. Plsssssss.

  7. Happy belated birthday pk. You are a great are so nice and that is one thing i also consider a weakness.
    But i really don't know where to draw the line between ambition and purpose.( what do i call the surge i feel when i enter some shop at the mall or the question why is it not mine why is someone else living my dream instead of giving myself undue pressure about what should be or could be, i rather just let go that i might have peace.

  8. Hello dear! It is only in today's mixed up world that we think being nice is a weakness. Being nice takes more guts anyday than being mean. It is the only expression of God we have in a wicked world. It takes a lot to be nice, it takes a lot of God given strength and our world is in need of more nice people.

    Concerning your urge, I think you are mistaking desire, coveting, needs and wants. To like what you see in the mall is simply expressing a desire and its not bad, to desire some other person's stuff is coveting and its bad. Purpose on the other hand points you to what is needed and what is not needed to make your life successful.

  9. Thank you sir. I've gotten my gift. It is valid.

  10. Yaaaaaaaaaa**aaaay!I got my gift!thank uuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu!*nnenna*